A Special Invitation  to

A Film:  “For the Bible Tells Me So”

(And a Discussion after the Film)

At

Emmanuel (Baust) United Church of Christ

     2930-2950 Old Taneytown Rd., Westminster, MD 21158

Sunday, September 30, 2012 – 6:00 p.m.

Program is Free of Charge

Light refreshments will be served.

For the Bible Tells Me So is a 2007

For more information please contact The Rev. Gerry C. Hanberry, Interim Pastor, EBUCC at pastor@ebucc.com or call 301-788-6546

PFLAG Westminster-Carroll August 2012 Picnic-Barbecue

The Group  collected School Supplies to donate to Shepherd’s Staff.

1st Row- Judy Gaver, Niki Nicholson, Nicole Williams, Joy Fisher

2nd row — Karen Daniel , Sara Daniel, Alex Storm Henderson, Karen Weigman, Thom Ballantine, Matthew Kalizak, Erin Snell,  Bill Kelly

3rd row – Addie Ostendorf-Snell, Steven Ostendorf, Luke Ostendorf-Snell, Andrew Kujan

  PFLAG Westminster-Carroll County  will host their annual end-of summer

barbecue.    (All PFLAG meetings are free, confidential and open to the public)

• What: PFLAG Westminster-Carroll County Pot Luck Picnic
• When: August 19 at 5:00 p.m.
• Where: St. Paul’s United Church of Christ,  Corner of Bond & Green Sts.,  Westminster, MD 21157
• Contact: June Horner, 410-795-2418, e-mail: junehorner@gmail.com,

Please bring something that you’d like to BBQ (hot dogs, chicken, hamburgers, veggie burgers, etc.) Please bring a dish to share if you are able… but

don’t let this stop you from coming.  There’s always enough to go around.

We’ll meet outside next to the parking lot.

There will be a grill to cook on. We want everyone to come out and grill their favorites with us and celebrate the end of summer.

We are also asking that everyone that comes to the picnic to bring a school supply that we will donate in the name of PFLAG to Shepherd Staff, a non-profit that helps low income families in Westminster.

In case of rain, we’ll just have to bring our ‘picnic’ fun inside to St. Paul’s Social Hall.

By MARY ELLEN and CASEY LOPATA 

After attending PFLAG (Parents Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, www.pflag.com) meetings when our son came out, we realized that if a parent, in the early stages of fear, confusion, anger and grief, could say, “I love my son” or “I love my daughter,” it was a good bet that, in time, those parents, that son or daughter, that family would be just fine. Over time, parents who put that love above all their doubts and anxieties will find joy in having an LGBT daughter or son.  Indeed, many of these parents will proudly march in Gay Pride parades, speak up for equal rights, and work tirelessly for justice for all LGBT persons.

Fortunately, there is now a resource that all parents—those  who know their child is gay and those who don’t—can use to help make decisions that will help insure a healthier, happier child now and for the future.

The booklet, Supportive Families, Healthy Children: Helping Families with Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Children, is the result of a 2009 study by the Family Acceptance Project (FAP)—a research, intervention, education and policy initiative, directed by Dr. Caitlin Ryan at San Francisco State University.  FAP’s research “focused on family behaviors in response to sexual orientation and gender expression during adolescence as predictors of current health problems”.  The study’s results were published in the January, 2009 issue of  Pediatrics, the official journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics, and can be accessed by clicking here. The results show a strong correlation between parental accepting or rejecting speech and behavior toward a child who reveals he or she is LGB or T, and the physical and mental health outcomes for that child.

The study found that “gay and transgender teen who were highly rejected

by their parents and caregivers were at very high risks for health and mental health problems when they become young adults.  Highly rejected young people were:

1)    More than 8 times as likely to have attempted suicide.

2)    Nearly 6 times as likely to report high levels of depression.

3)    More than 3 times as likely  to use illegal drugs, and

4)    More than 3 times as likely to be at high risk for HIV and sexually transmitted diseases.

Evidence clearly showed that the less rejection by parents, the lower the risk in all these categories.  For example:

“Gay and transgender youth from highly rejecting families were more than 8 times as likely to try to take their own lives by the time they were young adults.  In families that were moderately rejecting (had some negative reactions to their gay or transgender child—but also had some

positive reactions) those young people were only about twice as likely to try to kill themselves.”

The booklet also lists rejecting behaviors that are very harmful to LGBT youth such as physical and verbal abuse, exclusion from family events, blocking access to LGBT friends, events and resources, saying God will punish her/him, saying you are shamed by or ashamed of your LGBT child, and making your child keep their sexual identity a secret in the family.

 The Family Acceptance Project stresses that “families need to create a nurturing and supportive environment long before they know who their children will become.  This is critically important information for every parent to have—whether or not they know they have an LGBT child.

Information like this can go a long way in helping parents be the best parents possible to their LGBT daughters and sons in a world not yet able to see those children as God’s loving gift to the world.

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Mary Ellen and Casey Lopata have been active in LGBT ministry since the early 1990s, and they are the co-founders of Fortunate Families, a national network of  Catholic parents and family members of LGBT people.

NOTE: The Family Acceptance Projects’s multi-lingual, multi-cultural series of educational family booklets–Supportive Families, Healthy Children: Helping Families with Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Children–was recently designated as the first “Best Practice” resource for suicide prevention for LGBT youth and young adults by the national Best Practices Registry for Suicide Prevention.  

This publication is  available in specific cultural versions in English, Spanish and Chinese. A faith-based version is available for Mormon families with LGBT children. Other versions are planned, including one for Catholic families.

Print copies are available by contacting: fap@sfsu.edu.  Downloads are available at: www.family project.sfsu.edu/publications.